When I was a 92A rank E4 in the Army I was sexually assaulted. A tactic constantly used by abusers is to say the victim was “bad” and “immoral” and “deserved” pain to discredit the witness. I am single now in part because I will never date a military man due to the insomnia and constant nightmares from trauma. I am glad to see the NPR article saying they are changing the laws, but sad to see it had to reach 1 in 5 training women being violated before they did something real. Better late than never, but still very late. The old system was like putting a bunch of talking foxes in charge of a henhouse, and agreeing with their story that blood and chicken feathers were on their face by mistake. (1 in 5 is an article quote from the top of the second NPR image from “Biden Implements Sweeping Changes” July 28, 2023)
Every year users of Facebook are told it is my birthday, and dozens of people wish me happy birthday as well wishers. This year it was a stunning reminder of how fun, sexy, creative, and friendly people are the second you are NOT inside the Chesterfield and Richmond, Virginia area.
Seriously oceans of nice people saying nice things who have almost all talked me in real life in other places, in many cases in the last 5 years, and NO nice people from Virginia. It shows what Virginia people are like.
People wonder why I am NOT as happy as I was in the town where I graduated from high school on the honors program, or the town where I graduated from University. However they really treat me differently in Virginia.
Weeks ago when I was super sick with Covid someone named Micheal tired to tell me there was something wrong with my car. I had never told them about the make and model of my car, or let them walk me to my car so how did they know anything happened with it? Creepy stalker crap this seemed to be. Then another strange thing happened with my mail. The Mercury club in Seattle, WA wanted to offer me a membership. I applied for membership YEARS ago when I was visiting my aunt Trish living in Bothell a suburb of Seattle, and they said I lived too far away. I had never given The Mercury my new address, and yet mail had been forwarded from one of my older Virginia addresses to me! How did they MAIL that crap? How is Virginia LESS far? Stalkers-stalkers all around! Proof positive people are sharing information about me behind my back, and getting it wrong.
I am a domestic abuse survivor, and have had many ex-boyfriends many times steal money from me, punch me bloody in the face, and stomach. People on the Internet need to STOP forking information over to “friends” who say they want to “help” women in that stalker criminals say that sort of thing too ALL the TIME. The Internet is sadly a treasure trove of dangerous information and misinformation. I have been to some great night clubs, with fun nights, and had good relationships in other areas. In Virginia the clubs are nothing but con-artist abuse factories for bad men meeting new victims. This is why I go on SO MANY road trips out of state, and go FAR away to be social as often as I can hit the road by car, or Amtrak, or road bike. This is why I keep a P.O. box far from my home. An important aspect of data privacy many Internet chat boards forget to mention is do not use home addresses. Simply put don’t talk about women’s personal information behind their back you are NOT helping them, and getting it very wrong.
I thank CNN and CBS for reporting this as I was a rape victim at Fort Lee in Virginia in 2005, and a second issue is victim’s stories not being believed and reports not being taken. A reason I will not date military personnel. This doesn’t mean I never want to date someone special, but I don’t want face and stomach punches to be part of it.