Tag: #properplace

It happened again last night; someone called me gay and tried to drag me to a gay club. I am not gay! I was bisexual years ago, and I am female and I did date a few girls. A few guys then tried to stalk me like some sort of Cape Fear movie saying I needed to meet a “real” man, and I was quick to say I would never get with them at all due to disliking their gender. This gossip was then spread far and wide. I would never date them anyway due to their thick skulls not understanding “no” as an idea. Then I went back to dating men years ago. Some people never have to debate their personal dating identity so life is easy for them, but for many gender is a more fluid concept. The problem is people have come up to me, and said that they were doing me the “favor” of dragging me to gay clubs when I am talking to single men. I have two degrees, and I am not so stupid that I don’t know I am talking to single guys. This happened to me this weekend. Even if I was full-blown gay my entire social life would not happen “only” in gay clubs. Insisting you know people’s “proper” social life because of past dates, or supporting gay rights is really offensive. I have noticed a strange increase in the amount of times I have to explain this to people this year. This has been the third time in three months. It is rather frightening in a Handmaiden’s Tale sort of a way that this is even a debate.